07 Oct

My Winter’s Journey

Spring is finally here in full force, my favorite season! It has been an incredible blessing over the winter months, spending time with myself, while becoming a Destiny Coach, taking spiritual and Internal Family Systems classes. Maybe it’s my age and the time of life to reflect, maybe. But I also remember those long summer months of vacation in Australia as a kid, of having the opportunity and time to do nothing if I chose. There was a slowness, a stillness, a time to dream, a time to reflect, a time for play. I remember one of my favorite things to do was to read in the back of our car in the carport. It was the shadiest and coolest place around.  We didn’t have air-conditioning and I would read and nap, think, daydream and reflect on what I was reading. That has got to be one of my favorite things to do even now. Mostly though I don’t give myself that pleasure, that joy enough.

Something wonderful happened this winter though as I was in this apartment with beautiful views and sun bursting through the windows. I felt called to spend time here, to slow down, to go inside even more deeply and to connect with God even more deeply. Everything that was ready to heal came up and having this relationship with God, He was able to love me and heal me through some unhealed events from the past.  Being that our life is a journey and we will hopefully always be on that journey, that journey of love, acceptance, forgiveness, purpose and connection with God.  Just like nature which is quiet in winter, resting, renewing and working underneath, in the roots and in the sap as it prepares for Spring, so it is important for us too to do the same, to slow down, reflect and renew.

Many people are running away from themselves. I know I still was. Recently I was reminded of Rumi’s beautiful quote: “The wound is where the light enters”. If the wound is where the light enters wouldn’t we seek the light?  Problem is, we have to go through the wound, sometimes opening up a scab that underneath is still not completely healed. We have to reveal that which is probably very uncomfortable and sometimes very scary. We have to look at the negative judgements about ourselves that we hold which, by the way, are just not true. We have to find the place where it is safe to let them go.

That’s why I have continued to search and find these wonderful techniques which not only help you to heal past wounds but also I’ve learned how to help you feel safe to heal and unburden any limiting beliefs you may have learned that keep you from stepping into your true destiny.

I have always sought for meaning in life, the meaning of why I am here and I continue to have everyday miracles, insights and guidance from God about that. What I love about God is that nothing is random.  I have seen that I am so much more than this life, this particular journey. This journey can be very up and down and challenging but it has been so worth it. My pilgrim journey of discovering who I am in the light of God who loves me unconditionally, this journey of lifting the veils of unconsciousness to discover the amazing light within each and everyone of us.

This marvelous Winter’s Journey of Realization of healing and learning could not have been possible with out the supernatural help, love and support from above I have had. Knowing that I am not alone and, even though I had felt alone in the past, I have realized that there was always someone watching over me and guiding me. Nor would it have been possible with out the incredible earth angels I have had in colleagues, spiritual mentors and expert coaches.
It couldn’t have been possible either without you my most important clients who trusted me enough to share your incredible precious selves. I honor you always, your courage to heal and to step forward into your destiny, is my inspiration. We are all one!

With love and blessings,

 

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19 Mar

Integrity

While praying and meditating this morning, I asked God what He wanted to teach me today and the word Integrity came to my mind.

The Oxford English Dictionary Definition of Integrity is:

The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness. The state of being whole, entire, or undiminished.

I felt that God was telling me to not only to be more in integrity to others but to be more in integrity to myself. So often over the years I have taken advice from others, believed them, forged ahead and things backfired for me and I ended up out of integrity. I didn’t trust my own gut, my own intuition, I often followed someone else’s advice as I believed they knew better than me. Perhaps if I had counseled myself, gone within to weigh whether this advice was something I felt was the right way to go for me? Perhaps I would have served myself better.

This doesn’t mean that we can’t ask someone else’s advice who may have expertise in the field you are asking about but why not turn inside first, to reflect and connect to God. After all we are all tapped into the source of all creation, we just have to listen and to trust our intuition. If you are not used to that, find ways to increase your skill in it. It takes practice. You have your own unique path in life and this is why it is important to trust and go within to find out what or where you are supposed to be and where you can best serve.

Choose trustworthy people who fully support you. Those who support you in finding out, for yourself, how to come to the choice, the decision that is for your highest good. Go to those who encourage and help you to see who you really are, who value your opinion and ask questions that help you to find what is true for you. When you come from your heart in a loving way it will be easier to stay in integrity. You will know it’s right in your gut.

Make sure you are not doing something out of fear.

It’s interesting to me how when I set an Intention as I did with Integrity, all the times I was not in integrity came up to the light to be healed. It can be very uncomfortable.  All those experiences that my subconscious had hidden away, ignored, pushed down, gone unconscious about, simply because I couldn’t handle it on my own, didn’t know how to handle it, or felt too guilty about. Well, it came up to the light to be healed, it was time. Whether that was to forgive myself, forgive others or to ask for forgiveness, it was time.

I think of this healing work like going to exercise class. If I don’t exercise, my body breaks down and I am not as strong, as healthy, or flexible. I feel the same way about my mind, my emotions and my spirit. I want to keep them healthy, flexible, open and always growing.

If you can relate to any of this, it is time to heal. Not healing may be blocking you from sharing your gifts in the world, having great relationships and of you feeling at peace in your soul. It will also get in the way of you manifesting all that you dream as you will feel unworthy until it is cleared and you are again in integrity.

We are moving towards being whole, entire and undiminished!

So for sure, up came all that stuff from the past where I was not in integrity, where I may have unwittingly hurt people or was not in integrity with myself. I had to clean it all up. It was an opportunity, a blessing even though it doesn’t always feel that way. I know it was worth it as it will be for you!

 

Love and Blessings Always,

 

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11 Mar

Reflection and the Seasons

I am ready for Spring weather and it looks like it may be here! Yay!!! The winter was an incredible blessing for me, since I didn’t have to commute to the office after January. I had more time to spend at home between clients reflecting on many issues and being with myself. I was reminded of those long summer months of vacation in Australia growing up, of having the opportunity and time to do nothing if I chose. There was a slowness, a stillness, a time to dream, a time to reflect, a time for play. I remember one of my favorite things to do was to read in the back of our car in the carport. It was the shadiest place around and I would read and nap, think, daydream. That has got to be one of my favorite things to do even now. Mostly though I don’t give myself that pleasure, that joy enough. I was always to busy and would feel guilty if I spent time either not doing anything or playing.

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Something wonderful happened this winter as I was in this apartment with beautiful views and sun bursting through the windows. I felt called to spend time here, to slow down, to go inside even more deeply and to heal even more deeply. Everything that was ready to heal came up to the light. Being that our life is a journey and we will always be on that journey of finding deeper self love and acceptance. Just like nature which is quiet in winter, resting, renewing and working underneath, preparing for Spring, it was important for me too, to do the same, to slow down, reflect and renew.

Most people are running away from themselves. I know I still was. I am reminded of Rumi’s quote: “The wound is where the light enters”. If the wound is where the light enters wouldn’t we seek the light? Problem is, we have to go through the wound, sometimes opening up a scab that underneath is still not completely healed. We have to reveal that which is uncomfortable and sometimes scary. We have to look at the negative judgements about ourselves that we hold which, by the way, are just not true.  We have to find the place where it is safe to transform them. We can safely heal with gentle techniques such as EFT (Emotional Healing Techniques), Matrix Reimprinting, Grief Recovery Method and Internal Family Systems. When you do heal, what is revealed is more and more of your connection to Divine Love and the discovery that you are enough, lovable and that your dreams are possible!

I have always sought the truth and this winter wonderful things have opened up to me of such beauty and bliss, that it is hard to describe. I continue to have everyday miracles, insights and guidance from above. We are all so much more than this life, this particular journey. I’m not saying it’s always easy, it can be very up and down on this journey but it is so worth it. Our pilgrim journey of discovering who we are, this journey of lifting the veils  to discover the amazing light within each and everyone of us.

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I think of clearing our energy, of getting our energy system unstuck, of changing any negative thoughts as something to be done continuously. We go to the gym and exercise classes to keep our bodies fit and flexible. We eat healthy food and pray and meditate. We brush our  teeth and floss. I also take care of my emotional system and get rid of any blocks and fears that crop up and get in the way of me achieving my goals.

I believe it is of prime importance to take care your emotions and spirit which affects every part of your body and create your life at every moment of every day.

Love and blessings always,

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27 Jan

Miracles

 

The snow started falling in the morning and as it landed on my balcony I happened to look out and see all these little stars on the concrete and the furniture.  I can’t believe I’d never noticed snowflakes like this before.  I guess living in the city and not having grown up with snow, I mostly saw snow as cold, (I don’t like cold) and a nuisance.  It turns to a brown slushy mess and can be an inconvenience.

But here was this incredible miracle as I gazed out on the balcony and saw all these unique little stars.  They were each very beautiful and completely different.  I felt like a kid again in awe and wonder. The miracle of snow that each snowflake is unique, not one the same as another, how amazing is that?   It’s just like us.  There are billions of people in the world and not one is the same, we are all unique and beautiful and a miracle just like the snowflakes.

I saw another miracle as I was riding the bus to my exercise class.  It was lightly snowing and as we stopped to pick up some passengers I saw a few birds on a tree, flying from branch to branch and I couldn’t tell if they were enjoying the snow or not but I marveled that here they were with only some feathers keeping them warm in this 20 degree weather.

One of the birds was a robin, the harbinger of Spring.  I always get excited when I see a robin towards the end of winter as it gives me hope that Spring is coming soon.  Here was this robin in the middle of winter, did he or she have her timing off?  I understood it as God showing me that there is always hope and even though our ‘winters’ in life may be difficult and may never seem to end, there is always hope that Spring will eventually come.  Each season in life has it’s value and it’s importance.  Life goes on, in it’s beautiful and inimitable way.

My prayer for you is that you always know deep in your heart that you, like the snowflakes, are a miracle, exquisitely beautiful and magnificent in your uniqueness.  I hope that you would know that if you are going through struggles, hardships and difficulties, that Spring will be here soon.  Look for the miracles in your life, they are there, you just have to be open to seeing them. I was never able to see the miracle of the snowflake because I was looking at it the wrong way, I could only see all the negatives of snow and I wasn’t open to the miracle.

I remember how when things were very hard for my family  just a few years back. I thought of Job a lot at that time and when the challenges just never seemed to end, the thought of Job and his patience did help me to persevere and not give up. I experienced many miracles among the struggles.  I knew that there was a reason for these hardships and the learning was profound, I can attest to that.  Those difficult times ended and Spring came in all its glory.

Recently a friend of one of my son’s killed himself, it was absolutely heartbreaking.  It seemed he had never been happy. How sad, that this young person, never knew how precious he was, how much he was loved by God.  There is always an answer, there is always hope, there is always the promise of Spring and there are always miracles.  We just have to be open to seeing them, have patience to await them and faith that God will never abandon us.

Remember to love others no matter what. Let them know they are precious to you. Let them know that you care, let them know that their presence in your life is important, that they are important and lovable.  Spend time with those who are lonely, call or write to those who are apart from you.

Take extraordinary care of yourself, so that you can take extraordinary care of others.

You are a miracle!

Peace, blessings and love to you always,

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19 Jan

How to be Gentle and Compassionate with Yourself

“Through your unique journey in life, you can make a difference
Through your trials, challenges and joys you have insights to help others
Through your embracing the light, you can bring peace to the world”.

 

1. Have Gentleness, Compassion and Forgiveness

One of the greatest things we can do for ourselves is to have love, compassion and forgiveness for ourselves. Not only will you be more at peace, and have more fun and joy in your life, but those wonderful feelings will reflect out to others. When we have compassion and understanding for our own faults and weaknesses, it allows us the opportunity to choose if we want to keep recreating these negative experiences in our life, or of choosing something more positive, effective and life-affirming. It’s not that we just accept our weaknesses as much as it is a surrendering them to a God, a loving Father, asking for help and guidance to improve, knowing that we are not alone and don’t have to go it alone. It’s also not that we don’t take action to do better. We do but we do it with gentleness, compassion and understanding at all times, especially when we fall.  (I just want to mention here that many people do not even like using the word “God” as they have had negative experiences of a religious nature.  People who have had experiences in some religious institutions or at home that turned them off, they experienced rejection and deep hurt. I understand that and I have experienced the same but as I have journeyed through life, studied, prayed, meditated, contemplated, read and experienced. I know that oftentimes little of our true loving God is in religion – what is left is often fear, judgement and rejection. I do believe and have experienced that our true God is our most loving, benevolent and beneficent Papa just waiting to bless us with abundant love and provision. So try to imagine the most loving, kind, wise, supportive, forgiving Dad and multiply that a thousandfold. Then maybe we are getting somewhat close to what God is truly like.)

2. Don’t Beat Yourself Up

When we beat ourselves up, for whatever it is we may be angry at ourselves for, it causes resistance in us and there is no way we can choose anything positive. We are coming from ‘survival at all costs’.  We become ‘stuck’.  Sometimes our challenges will bring us to our knees as we realize that we need Divine help. When we open ourselves to this Divine help, we are on the path of healing and transformation. We have support. This help that may come in the form of a person, a book or even a song so be open to miracles occuring.

3. Remember You Are Valuable

Never forget that you are valuable beyond measure. Your life and your experiences have tremendous value for your growth in consciousness and for those around you. Try to look at everything, (even the experiences which you feel are humiliating or shameful) with compassion and understanding.  If you messed up, you were no doubt coming from fear and survival. These events can be an opportunity for learning true humility and, believe it or not, this can be a gift. These life lessons can help us to have compassion for others who may also be struggling in the same way.  Believe me, most people have skeletons in their closets!  It’s all okay.  God is not judging you, so be extremely gentle with yourself and follow through with integrity.  Take extra-ordinary care of yourself.  Forgiveness is key to making changes and if you have to ask for forgiveness from others, so be it.  Whatever brings peace in your hearts.

4. Bring Everything to the Light

Bring everything to the light of God.
Watch your thoughts and remember we have 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. Notice how often they are negative. Notice how often you are hard and punishing on yourself. Notice if you are comparing yourself to others and choose something else, something much more positive.  Imagine you were talking to a little child.  Would you be so harsh?  I think you would try to be understanding and gentle. Choose to treat yourself in the same way.  We are still children in many ways and we are always on a journey of learning about life.  Your life has unique value that only you can experience and share. You have unique gifts and talents filtered through your life’s experiences. Never devalue the importance of your life and of YOU.

Love always,

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01 Jan

Procrastination

 

Some of my clients asked me to give them a Tapping Script that may help them on a daily basis with their procrastination. So I have written one here below. I would also like to talk a little bit about procrastination and to remind you that you are not bad or wrong for procrastinating. Go easy on yourself, in fact, it is of PRIME importance NOT to beat yourself up for procrastinating, that is only going to make things worse.

There is always a reason why we procrastinate and the important thing is to find out why and to tap into that issue.

  1. Our body/mind/spirit system is trying to keep us ‘safe’.  Our brain is thinking subconsciously, if we get this achieved the long-term payoff is too scary, I may be killed, be successful, I may fail, lose my job, be seen, stand out, get more clients and then be too busy, be judged, criticized, yelled at, or any number of other fears that keep us stuck. 
  2. Procrastination can be a way of rebelling against an authority figure such as a teacher, boss, parent or anyone in a leadership position over you. You procrastinate as you feel this is the only way you can feel any control or autonomy over your life. Perhaps they let you down, took advantage of you and hurt you.
  3. You may be procrastinating because you have resentment and anger over the way they have treated you. There is a part of you that is resisting doing the task or project to ‘get back at them.’ Problem is it may be hurting you in the long run.

All these issues can affect you and your ability to get important things completed and to take care of you. Part of our procrastination might mean we will be ‘busy’ filling up our time with unimportant tasks. Ask yourself:

  • is this helping me to get my important tasks done first?
  • Am I spending too much time on Facebook, watching TV, shopping or doing other activities that are not helping me to move forward in getting my goals and projects done on time?
  • How can I take care of me here? How do I handle this situation while getting my needs met?

Tapping can help you calm the fear, fight, freeze response in the body, the anger and resentment over the hurts and thereby help you to think more calmly and with clarity. Instead of numbing out, you are able to choose how you want to respond in any given situation.

Following is a script for you on feeling ‘safe’ to get your goals achieved. Remember that you can change the words to fit yourself. Your words are the best words for you!  Tapping scripts are hard to do because each and everyone one of us is unique and different, so creating a one size fits all is nearly impossible. Nevertheless, tapping is better than doing nothing, so give it a whirl and persevere. Tapping on procrastination needs persistence!

Remember also that in EFT we always tap on the negative first, that is how our minds and bodies will be able to accept the positive affirmations. We have to take care of the negative first. Check your discomfort about the issue and rate it between 1 and 10. 10 being the most discomfort and 0 being no discomfort. Only when we feel we are at a 4 level or below do we bring in the positive affirmations. 

The Wrist Point (WP) is inside the wrist, where you would take your pulse. 

Tap on each point 5 to 7 times.

Round 1:

KC (Karate Chop Point): Even though I don’t want to do…………………….., I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it. In fact, I don’t even want to think about it, I  accept myself anyway

Even though I don’t want to do……………………….., I refuse to do……………………, I will never do……………….., it’s too hard, it’s disgusting, it’s so much easier just numbing out and being distracted, I am open to seeing this issue from a different point of view and I deeply and completely accept myself

Even though the thought of doing this task gives me a headache, makes me feel nauseous, embarrassed, guilty (or whatever it is for you). I am open to giving myself credit for dealing with this, for tapping on this issue and trying to work through this procrastination and I deeply and profoundly accept myself.

TH (Top of Head): This procrastination

EB (Eye Brow): This procrastinating

SE (Side of Eye): I’m tired of procrastinating

UE (Under Eye): I’m sick and tired of not taking care of myself

UN (Under Nose): This procrastinating

CP (Chin Point): I’m done with it

CB (Collar Bone Point): I’m sick of it

UA (Under Arm): I’m sick of not getting stuff done

WP (Wrist Point): I’m sick of wasting my own time

Round 2:

TH: This procrastination

EB: This procrastination

SE: This procrastinating

UE: I’m over it

UN: I’m done with it

CP: I’m tired of it

CB: I’ve had enough of it

UA: This procrastinating

WP: This procrastination

Round 3:

TH: It’s too difficult?

EB: Not possible

SE: It’s too scary?

UE: too dangerous

UN: This fear

CP: This fear

CB: This fear

UA: It’s way too scary

WP: Opening up a can of worms

Round 4:

TH: It’s never going to happen

EB: Too scary

SE: I’m not brave enough

UE: It’s life and death for me

UN: I just want to let this fear go

CP: I’m so tired of it

CB: I just want to let it go

UA: Maybe it’s possible, I could let some of the fear go?

WP: What if I am safer than I thought?

TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND CHECK IN WITH YOUR BODY – what is your discomfort between 1-10? If it is still over a 4 go back and repeat the above. If it is a 4 or below, go on to the next rounds.

Round 5:

TH: What if could try a little bit at a time?

EB: What if I could feel safe doing that?

SE: Maybe it’s possible

UE: What if it could actually feel good getting the work done?

UN: What if I could feel grounded and safe doing the work?

CP: I wonder if it’s possible I could feel confident getting my needs met?

CB: What if I could feel more calm and safe?

UA: What if could start slow?

WP: What if I am worthy to get my needs met?

Round 6:

TH: I’m giving myself permission to actually enjoy getting my goals met

EB: I know I’m worth it

SE: I’m choosing to honor myself here and get this important work done

UE: I’m worth it

UN: I actually enjoy getting things done in a timely manner

CP: I’m choosing to acknowledge the hard work  I’ve put in over the years

CB: I did it before and I can do it again

UA: I’m choosing to look forward to achieving my goals and taking care of myself

UC: I’m choosing to take care of me

WP: I’m choosing to take care of me and I’m worth it

TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND REPEAT ANY ROUNDS AS NECESSARY!

Just remember to listen to your body and if there is any tension then you know you need to tap more. Remember that we always tap on the negative and when the feelings (negative) go down to a 4 or below then you can bring in some positive affirmations or in this case I brought in open-ended questions which kick the brain into finding solutions for itself. If asking those questions brings out a big NO, then keep tapping on the negative some more until your body feels ready to accept the positive.

Here are some pointers that have helped me and others do those important tasks first:

  • Write a list the night before with the important tasks to be done first.
  • Do the hardest tasks first.
  • Put the list either on our computer where you can cross it off or up on your wall, where it is in your face and hard to ignore.
  • Have a timer beside you (also there are apps that you can download free online) that give you 5,10, 20 or 30 minutes to do the difficult tasks. Make the time an amount where you can feel ‘safe and comfortable putting in that time. You can start small and build up.
  • If you have more than one task, use that timer for each and keep to the time, it is really helpful.
  • Congratulate yourself for getting them done, pat yourself on the back, dance to some great music, sound the ‘Applause’ (free app) on your phone or jump up and down wildly. Do something fun. I know it sounds crazy to do that but you are actually retraining your brain into believing that doing these difficult tasks can actually be a good thing and even fun.

Something I remind myself from time to time is how am I going to feel on my deathbed if I never achieved the goals I had set for myself or achieved what I thought I was here to do in this life. I want to pass on from this life knowing that I did achieve what I set out to do or know that I did the best that I could. I would feel terrible knowing I wasted my gifts by procrastinating and reminding myself of this, keeps the fire lit under me. Even if you are young, it’s good to ponder this because you want to live a full, rich life of adventure, passion, and love, without regrets.

It does take some discipline. I know that can be a dreaded word for many but honestly, after you have achieved the task you feel so much better. It’s worth it, so if you need to do some minor gritting of teeth to just start, I say why not? This is where tapping can be SO helpful to neutralize the fears, anger, or resentment that are keeping you stuck!

Another important thing I do is I always check in with God, sometimes we push ourselves into goals that are perhaps not what we really want in our hearts. We just think we ought to. Maybe there is or was an expectation by our family, perhaps we made a vow a long time ago but now we feel as if we should be doing something else.  It is completely acceptable to let go of a goal that you discover you don’t want anymore. Just make sure to know what is true for you and you’re not just pushing back.

Remember you are valuable beyond measure and I hope you feel better from tapping with this script and you will be able to achieve those tasks and goals you set out to do. If this script doesn’t help then you may need to work one on one with someone because there are probably underlying deep-seated issues that need to be addressed and healed that are causing the procrastination. I didn’t get to write a script for the anger/resentment/rebellion and hurt issues. I think this blog would have been so long. Maybe that is for another day and you can use this template and again add your anger/resentment/rebellion and hurt phrases and words.

Don’t forget you can always reach out to me for a free consult if you have questions and need to work more deeply on your issues to get unstuck.

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16 Dec

EFT Holiday Tapping Script

 

For some people the holidays can bring up some stress. Here’s a little holiday Tapping script for you that I hope will be helpful.

Take three big deep breaths, thinking about the holidays and what feelings they bring up for you. Note what the feelings are and where they are in your body and just acknowledge them, they are simply energy and when you allow them to be without judgement they will shift and change. Then start to tap gently 5 to 7 times on each point starting on the Karate Chop Point.

Karate Chop Point (KC): Even though the holidays are coming up and there is a part of me that feels it is exciting and wonderful, there is another part of me that feels dread at the stress and relationship obligations I have to handle, I deeply and completely honor and accept my feelings about it.

KC: Even though I find it difficult to know what is expected of me, I am open to taking care of myself this year and creating boundaries.

KC: Even though I have become stressed in the past, I’m open to doing things differently this year. I’m open to honoring my limitations and to realize I can’t please all the people all of the time.

Top of the Head (TH): This stress.

Eyebrow Point (EB): This stress.

Side of the Eye (SE): I don’t want to deal with it

Under the Eye (UE): This stress about the holidays

Under the Nose (UN): This holiday stress

Chin Point (CP): This……………(put in any emotions you may be feeling such as resentment, anger, fear etc).

Collar Bone (CB): Too much stress.

Under the Arm (UA): All the responsibility

Under the Chest (UC): These feelings

Wrist Point (WP): These feelings

Keep Tapping as many rounds of the above as you need to until all those feelings have gone to a level 4 or below (on a scale of 1-10).

Then you can move on to the rest of the script below.

Top of the head (TH): Maybe it’s okay to take care of myself.

Eyebrow point (EB): Maybe it’s possible for me to get my needs met during this time of the year.

Side of the eye (SE): I’m open to not overdoing it

Under the eye (UE): I’m open to not overtaxing my finances

Under the nose (UN): It’s okay for me to enjoy myself

Chin Point (CP): I give myself permission to enjoy others for who they are without expectations.

Collar Bone (CB): I’m open to having a good time without going overboard.

Under the arm (UA): What if I can remember what the holidays are really about?

Under the Chest (UC): What if things could be different this year?

Wrist Point (WP): What if I could be calm and confident?

TH: What if I can find ways to relax?

EB:: What if I could create strong boundaries for myself?

SE: I am grateful for being me and all that I have in my life.

UE: I’m open to things rolling off my back like water off a duck’s back.

UN: I can be gentle and compassionate with myself and others.

CP: I’m open to letting go of expectations of how these holidays should be.

CB: I give myself permission to be happy and get my needs met, while taking care of others too.

UA: I give myself permission to feel relaxed and to enjoy myself.

Take a few deep breaths and check in with your body and note how you are feeling. If you are feeling good then that is great. If you still feel a little anxious then tap another round or two or add in some of your own thoughts and feelings into the script.

I hope you have a blessed holiday season!

Love,

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07 Dec

Message From God

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I want to encourage everyone to spend quiet, still time, every day with God.  Spend time in quiet reflection and know on a deep and profound level that we are connected to something so much greater than our limited conscious mind. Keep surrendering any fears or worries in your life and ask for all that you need from the  Source of divine love that has only our best interest and our highest good at heart.

It is important to contemplate and reflect and if you listen with an open mind and heart on a loving God, there will always be answers for you. They may not come immediately and they may come through in an unusual way.  Always be open in heart and mind.

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Here is a message I received the other day and I would like to share with you, it may have meaning for you too:

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Be curious!

Just when you think you know something, be sure there is much, much, more to learn. You are only scratching the surface.

Be confidant that there is never an end to this learning, there is never an end to becoming more loving.

Just when you think you are pretty confident you know what you are doing, you receive a new learning and you are cracked open and you begin to doubt yourself.  You think, “Do I really know anything?”

Well, you know a little, that’s true. And you are growing everyday and this is very beautiful.

Know that you have My light within you and when you open yourself and become more vulnerable to learning from Me, you will grow ever more brighter.  Your light will start to shine to more and more people. Your light will shine through the darkness and bring light to those who are struggling.

People will be attracted to you like a moth to a flame. And you have the opportunity to share this light, to lighten their burdens.

Do not be afraid!

I am with you always, I have your back. You are never alone.

My love for you goes beyond all limits. There are no boundaries for My love for you. Have confidence in that.

Be open to receiving My love, My compassion, My mercy, My joy for this beautiful work you are doing.

Be open to love, to being loved and to loving others.

You are precious and I love you!

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With love and blessings,

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28 Oct

All You Need is Love

As I was doing my morning contemplating and praying. What came to into my mind was the word ‘protection’.   As life was sending me one hard knock after another as it sometimes does. I was taking it hard and personally and beating myself up, figuratively that is. The person I needed protection from was myself! No wonder I wasn’t feeling my best.   My energy wasn’t in a good place. I hate to admit this because I ‘should’ know better after all, I help others to transform these feelings.   I do see others’ immense value but it is not always easy to see my own. That is our limited human mind.

I realized that I was not loving myself and I was able to immediately change and give myself and my younger inner self, some compassion and love.   The Beatles song is right, “All you need is love”.  All we need is to love ourselves first and when we love ourselves first and foremost, we automatically love others. It is like a fragrance that exudes out to others. Love is oxygen for the heart and soul.   In essence we are loving the little child within us. Some people were not shown love and acceptance  when they were little and so they forget and slip back into the old pattern of how they were treated when they were young. It is very hard for those with abusive childhoods to even know what it is like to feel loved or lovable. They don’t feel worthy of love and so it is hard for them to give it to themselves, to others and also to receive it.

Turn to God and ask Him to show you how much you are loved. He is faithful and will answer your prayers. He showed His undying love for each and everyone of us when He sent His beloved son Jesus to die on the cross for us. You are that valuable to Him and to Jesus!

We must always know that we are valuable not only because we are made in the image and likeness of God, who knit us in our mother’s wombs. God is a loving Father, who cherishes us and made each of us with a unique divine purpose.  In God we are never orphans. We are lovable (in spite of our faults), simply because we are God’s children.  Try to not judge others too harshly, including yourself, take care of your needs first and then others after.  After all the Bible says to “Love your neighbor as yourself.” It is very hard to love anyone if you don’t know how to love yourself first. Learn what it feels like to feel good in your body, relaxed and at ease and ask God to help you to find peace and love within you.  Love the little child within you if he/she didn’t get it when young. You can now be the loving parent.  When you are feeling down, tense, angry etc, it is because you are becoming the hard judgmental adult within yourself.   Choose instead love, acceptance, gentleness, forgiveness and compassion. Everyone deserves it!   Run to get the healing you need and when you get the right healing you will know, you will start to relax and to feel at peace in your body and in your heart and soul. You are worth it!

Much Love Always,

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24 Sep

The Divine Spark Within

We each have the Divine Spark within us

We can most definitely learn from others, yes of course but at some point we have to slow the influx of information and turn within, nurturing our inner life.   We have the capacity to do many things but we have to ask ourselves some questions before we leap into another project. We can ask ourselves:

  • If I do this course, read this book, email, Facebook post, go out to another gathering, etc, is it leading me in the direction that I want, is it filling me up or is it leading me away from my goal and/or into procrastination?
  • Is this aligned with my higher purpose?
  • Will it create peace in my life?

I believe that each and everyone has a purpose here. I don’t know what yours is but what I do know is that when we are living our purpose we are happy. I don’t know that it is easy but it is definitely fulfilling and living it, will help others. They will see your ability to reach your goals, to be emotionally free and that you are living your dreams.   To do this we must turn within to God who is in each and everyone of us. As we go deep inside through contemplation and prayer we start to see who we really are, we become connected to the Source which is love beyond all understanding. We gain insights and our intuition increases. We learn to trust, accepting that we are loved completely and in spite of our faults.

You are valuable and precious, you are never alone, always loved, always cherished. Your only problem may be that you are not aware or you have forgotten who you really are in God’s eyes and are not allowing yourself to accept so much love waiting to pour into you.   Open your hearts and take a leap of faith and say “I am open to receiving love, I am open to receiving abundance, I am open to receiving miracles.” Say this everyday and surrender your fear, surrender you worries, surrender your cynicism to God and say “What if this were possible?”

You ARE worth it!

Much love always,

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07 Jun

The Power of Blessings

I was sitting on the couch the other day having a cup of tea and sending love beams to our cats, who were sitting on the floor watching me intently. It is easy for me to love our cats and send them love beams. They don’t rub up against my ego in any way, just my leg (LOL!) and they don’t talk back. I remember lovingly stroking our pet rat Nibbles to sleep under my chin years ago and my husband patting our pet parakeet to sleep under his sweatshirt. Love is powerful. Studies done at The Institute of HeartMath tell us that the human heart is 5,000 times more powerful magnetically than the brain. Our hearts are the strongest bio-electrical and magnetic field generators in our body.

Last month I mentioned the power of blessings from Pierre Pradervand and I have been experimenting with sending blessings to people. I find it a little different energy than ‘praying for someone’. Just like with my cats I send people ‘love beams’. I know my animals feel the love right away, I can see it in their eyes and I feel it back in my heart, this love energy. The great thing I have noticed about sending blessings to people is that it releases me from any negative energy I might be harboring towards them. I feel a release of feel good neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine. I find myself more compassionate, patient and understanding of that person or situation. I would be curious to see if we were hooked up to sensors while sending blessings whether there would be a spike in our neurotransmitter activity. My guess would be a ‘yes’. The reality here is that I am healed and I really don’t know if the person or situation that I am sending the blessing to is healed or affected, but i do know that I feel better.

I send blessings to my loved ones, my clients, to those I know are suffering or sick and to those I might be angry or annoyed with. When I do the latter, a miracle occurs and I am released of any residual negative feelings. I find that life is too short to hold grudges or any negative energy. I’d rather be attracting positive energy and events into my life. In this way we are activating The Law of Attraction in a very positive way and love is then attracted to us. I even send blessings to organizations I don’t agree with, instead of bemoaning the awful things they are doing and that I don’t have any control over. They can certainly use those blessings. Who knows the power that thousands of us sending blessings will have. Sometimes I see different colors when I send the blessings and I wish I could tell you why that is but I don’t know. Perhaps yours will also have colors or none at all. Let me know if you do, I am curious! Sending blessings is also like a good cleanse of the body.

Sending blessings of love constantly removes the negative from our energy system. If we have any negativity, it is because we learned it along the path of life. It is our primitive brain looking for the ways that bad things can happen to us and in its somewhat misguided programming, it is merely attempting to keep us safe. The best medicine is to send our negative feelings and beliefs blessings too. This way we are transformed with love and that primitive part of our brain can feel safe. Whatever you do, don’t beat yourself up if you are feeling negative, it just creates more negativity. When we slip up, which we are bound to do, just forgive yourself and send yourself a blessing. We all deserve as many blessings as we can get. When I pray for someone, I have to petition God to help, when I am sending blessings, I am feeling that God is already in me, a part of me. We are all one, and the person I am blessing is part of me and part of God also. In that instant I think it and feel it, it is done. We all have that power within us.

Kids sense when they can trust an adult, they ‘get’ our energy right away, same as animals. We do as adults too but over the years we have built up so many layers of protection it is oftentimes hard to accept and trust. We are wary and sometimes rightly so of some people. Many of us don’t trust ourselves or love ourselves unconditionally. I wonder what might happen if you started on a daily course of blessings?

We can all make a difference in the world by blessing others. We will be raising the energetic vibrations of all those around us and therefore the world. Never underestimate the power of love and the difference one person can make. Here is a link to the Lilou Mace interview with Pierre Pradervand talking about how the “Gentle Art of Blessings” came about for him.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9CniM_9IDw2

Sending you all many, many blessings from my heart to yours  ❤

 

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17 Apr

Beloved

As I was doing my morning meditation and prayer, surrendering my life and asking God  to please inspire me and guide me as to the best way to go forward in my business, the best way to serve my clients and the best way I can be a parent and wife. The word ‘beloved’ came up, and in so many contexts this is such a beautiful word. Beloved because I am beloved by God and for most of my life I believed I was forgotten, not loved and very unlovable.

Beloved because we are all beloved by God even at the most difficult times of our lives. Beloved when we are  suffering and oftentimes not able to see the love that is around us. Beloved when we are rejecting ourselves.  Beloved because we are loved even at our worst. We have been forgiven. When Jesus died on the cross, He paid the price for us. There is nothing that we have ever done that we can not be forgiven for when we repent. There is no right no wrong, no black or white, only love. Know that if you struggle with accepting love and seeing how beloved by God you are, it is because you at some point in your life made the assumption, got the belief that you were not lovable and not deserving of love. So you continue to run that subconscious belief, because it is so uncomfortable for you to admit this.  You stuff it down, push it aside, pretend it’s not there and perhaps self medicate with cigarettes, food, alcohol, drugs and procrastination. You suffer aches and pains and serious illnesses, anything but to see and admit this awful belief. Well I want you to know that those beliefs are a lie. Not to have you punish yourselves yet again but to know that you can be free, you can know love from the deepest part of your being.

All you have to do is surrender your suffering, surrender your grief, surrender you fears to God and ask for help. On the other side of suffering is joy and peace. We are all ‘strands in this web of life’ (Chief Seattle’s quote). We are energetically connected not separate even though we have to go through our own journey, our own lessons and experience our own suffering and our great joys. No one is separate from some trauma and suffering. Some have more than others that’s all. We can come home to the real self, the real self that is a part of God, the unconditional love of the Divine Creator. You are not alone and there is always, always help along the way. For me, I have been working on myself since my late teens. My help came in many forms and the most profound for me is Matrix Reimprinting. I had assumed beliefs about myself from my upbringing, from years of sexual abuse and such. I believed I was black inside, rotten, disgusting. I was ashamed and I had to hide this part of myself.

Wow, it’s hard to believe that a little girl could believe such things about herself deep down but that is what can happen and happens around us to many people all the time. No wonder people as they grow up sabotage their success, have relationships where their partners treat them badly and are not appreciated at work. Sad to say we attract what we believe in our deepest hearts. Matrix Reimprinting helped me to go back and see the reality of what happened to me, that it was not about me but more about the people who did things to me.  I was able to release  the trauma aspects of events and my younger self could heal and find forgiveness.

I had a choice to forgive and to see the reality of the situation and to see the real me. The real me which is and was always worthy of unconditional love and ‘beloved’ by God. And so it is true for you too. There is no blame for anyone. I see now my abusers as my greatest teachers, I see that the suffering I went through was an opportunity for me to choose unconditional love and forgiveness at every point. To choose the love of God.  I have to choose forgiveness every day for myself when I screw up, when I am impatient and with my many other faults. I choose to forgive others when they screw up and hurt me unwittingly. To me it is the only answer to true freedom.

I’m on my journey and I welcome you on yours. Know that you are worthy and deserving! Do you have the courage to step into your greatness, your magnificence! The way God sees you?  I see the potential in all my clients even though they may not see it in themselves. It takes persistence, a never give up attitude and a willingness to surrender and trust in a God of total unconditional love and forgiveness.

 

You are and always were ‘beloved’,

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25 Feb

Beliefs and What I learned from the Jamaicans

Last week I was on vacation in Jamaica, It’s been quite a while since I went on vacation so this was a special treat for me. The warmth, sun, white sand and beautiful turquoise water were something I had dreamed about for a long time. I came home feeling so impressed with the people. Everything about our stay went so smoothly, from the cheerful and polite airline staff to our hotel staff and the crew who ran the special trips we went on. They all worked hard with such a cheerful attitude, we always managed to get everywhere we needed to on time with no stress. NO problem, Yeah Mon!! gail-mae-dolphins While I was there I was reading the book “The Happiness Advantage” by Shawn Achor, a wonderful book chronicling his work with companies and how people who are happier are more successful and do better in life at all levels. His work parallels what I do to reimprint people’s negative opinion about themselves into positive opinions and beliefs. Sometimes it takes time to change those beliefs but it can be done and more often than not we simply have to trick the brain. I believe all things are possible and why not? We created our lives to this point by our beliefs, why not change the beliefs and change your life if you choose? People who ‘believe’ they are smart and capable do better on tests than those who doubt themselves, even though their intelligence levels may be the same. Just because you may have been a certain way for 20, 30, or even 60 years. The brilliant thing is, is that it doesn’t matter, we CAN change, it’s been proven.

Anyway I strongly suggest you read the book, secondly I suggest you visit Jamaica to see that it is possible to ‘be happy’, it’s a choice we make everyday. I know the Jamaicans are not making much money, their economy is not strong and they pay top dollar for many of their services. They are trying very hard to turn that around. In the meantime they have chosen to be cheerful, polite, helpful and gracious. I got a lot of hugs there, how wonderful was that!  Some of us need to do some extra trauma releasing and reimprinting and that’s my job! We can also do other simple things as well to increase our levels of happiness. Here’s a few and remember that everyone is different and what floats your boat may not be the same for others. Always check in with your body to what feels good, you want to get those endorphins flowing.  You want your brain to create more serotonin and dopamine, the feel good chemicals:

Studies have been done which prove that even thinking about something fun or pleasurable you are planning to do raises the feel good brain chemicals. I can attest to that, just thinking about my Jamaican holiday made me happy long before I was there. You don’t even have to spend a lot of money. It can be as simple as planning a movie date with friends. Some people have a belief that they are meant to suffer, or to be unhappy but the key word here is ‘belief’.  What you believe you will create. Well, I believe that we can be happy and my work is about helping you to see who you really are, lovable and deserving of happiness. So on my return to NYC from Jamaica, I promised myself to choose every day to be more relaxed, more chill, more happy and HAVE MORE FUN! I think we owe it not only to ourselves but to each other, let’s just bring more joy to the world! I am planning on expecting even more miracles in my life. How about you?

All my best wishes for abundant love, joy and miracles!

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02 Dec

Balance and Boundaries

Balance and Boundaries

I notice more and more about myself as I get older and also as I am running a business, one of the things I find challenging is finding balance. When I decide to do something, it’s an all or nothing thing and I find that taking care of myself, can sometimes take second place. Here’s an interesting exercise for you to do:

•Take a piece of paper and fold it into four, tear or cut the fourths into separate pieces

•Write down four people you love the most in the world, one on each piece of paper

•Now tear one up and throw it away

•Then do it with the next and the next until you have one left

•Who was the last one left? Was it you? Were you even one of the four?

I notice more and more about myself as I get older and also as I am running a business, one of the things I find challenging is finding balance. When I decide to do something, it’s an all or nothing thing and I find that taking care of myself, can sometimes take second place. Here’s an interesting exercise for you to do:

•Take a piece of paper and fold it into four, tear or cut the fourths into separate pieces

•Write down four people you love the most in the world, one on each piece of paper

•Now tear one up and throw it away

•Then do it with the next and the next until you have one left

•Who was the last one left? Was it you? Were you even one of the four?

If not, it is interesting to see how you value yourself! Just like when you are in a plane and they tell the parents to put the oxygen masks on themselves before they put it on their kids. The airline staff know that when the parents have their oxygen they will be able to take proper care of their kids. So it is with you, when you take care of yourself first, all those around you will be taken care of better. They may even learn that they need to step up to the plate and do a better job on their end rather than have you doing all the work. The bible says: “Love your neighbor as yourself”. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally that love emanates to all those around you. The value that you have for yourself will also help you to see the value others are in your life.

That leads me to the other point I wanted to talk about and that isboundaries. Where in your life are your boundaries lax? Not only for taking care of yourself and your career needs but also in your relationships. Our relationships can affect the success in our career. Is there anyone in your life who is a drain on your energy? Is there anyone who is not supporting you or your career in the best way possible? These could be managers, agents, friends and family. Are the people who you are surrounding yourself positive, hardworking, encouraging, loving and holding you accountable? Life is short and we only have so much energy. We have to create boundaries if the important people in our lives are not being supportive. Don’t let anyone (especially yourself) doubt you or bring you down. Give to others, yes of course and at times we need to sacrifice.

I’m not advocating that it be all about you but remember balance and if you start to get exhausted, burned out, resentful or losing the joy in your work, check and see if you are taking care of yourself and getting your needs met. Love life and live it to the fullest. Be passionate about yourself and your work and your career. Shine your light and bring your joy, your essence through your work to the world by creating healthy balance and boundaries.

 

Love and blessings,

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03 Nov

Accepting Ourselves Unconditionally

This seems to be the hardest thing for people to do and as I see more and more clients. I believe the biggest stressor we have in life is our being hard on ourselves. If it is true as I have read that we have 70,000 thoughts a day, I wonder how many of those are negative judgments of ourselves? It’s an interesting exercise for you to notice how many negative thoughts you have about yourself as you go about your day. Do this for a week and see if you can see if those thoughts are really yours or you just absorbed them from your parents, teachers, friends, your religion etc.

Once you’ve noticed them see if you can choose whether to let them go or not. Oftentimes they are so deeply imbedded in our subconscious we don’t even know they are there. We might just start feeling bad or want to go for that cigarette, ice-cream, drink or whatever self medicating choice we have at the moment.

This beautiful work I do can help you to find where in your life you learned that belief and then you can choose to release it and create a new positive belief about yourself. Once you have released the negative beliefs, your life begins to change and you start to feel more relaxed as you let go of these subconscious thoughts that no longer serve you. You let go of negative imprints that are not only keeping you stuck but causing you to be tired and stressed.

You are worth feeling great about yourself and your life. You can achieve happiness, joy and feeling at ease and at peace. You are perfect in your imperfection and the world is waiting for you to shine your light!

Love and blessings,

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02 Aug

Changing the World One Heart at a Time

While on Facebook this morning I read this post a friend had put up and it reaffirmed to me what life is all about. I found it so inspiring I wanted to share it with you. It shows what a difference we can all make in someone’s life and we never know the difference that person can then make in the world.

Here it is and I hope you were as inspired as I was to hear it this morning:

As she stood in front of her 5th-grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X’s and then putting a big “F” at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child’s past records and she put Teddy’s off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise. Teddy’s first-grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners…. he is a joy to be around..” His second-grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle.”

His third-grade teacher wrote, “His mother’s death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn’t show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken.” Teddy’s fourth-grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class.”

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy’s. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children’s laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, “Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to.” After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing, and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy.

As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her “teacher’s pets…”

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling* her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life. Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he’d stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Then four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer…. The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference.” Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, “Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn’t know how to teach until I met you.” (For you that don’t know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist Hospital in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.

I believe in each and every one of you and when you shine your light in the world it can change the world! Keep working on yourself so you can shine your light as brightly as possible.

Much love to you,
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24 Jul

The Four Questions

I have been working on many things lately and one of them is how to market my business so that it can reach more people so that I can help more people. How do I do that and stay congruent with who I am? Believe me it’s a stretch! I have been really having to look and search for what is my message and who I would best serve with my gifts and talents. As part of my search I was called to look again into the work of Gail Larson. Gail works with people on how to speak their story. I love her work. She mentions Chief Seattle’s legendary words: “We did not weave the web of life. We are only a strand in it. Whatever we do to the web we do to ourselves.” “What is the strand of life that is entrusted to us?” She asks these four questions, which I think are powerful questions for us all to ask ourselves when we are discovering who we are and what we are here for and how we can shine our light in the world or as Gail says, “speak your story”:

1.What brings you alive? Anyone or anything that does not bring you fully alive is too small for you.

2.What breaks your heart? She mentions Rumi’s beautiful words: “Break my heart, break it again so I can love even more again.” I believe that it is surrendering into the depths of our suffering and not trying to numb it, push it down, self medicate or by keeping busy, that is our greatest gift, the jewel of our existence. In acceptance of what is and our openness to love and forgiveness is the pathway to our healing and in that moment of surrendering we are transformed. It is what makes us who we really are and when we have love, compassion and forgiveness for ourselves and those who hurt us that is our light in the world. “When we look at where our heart is breaking that is where we’re called to bring our love and our service.”

3.What does healing look like? Healing to me is when we are no longer trapped in negative patterns out of fear and survival. We are free to be who we really are. This is why I do the work I do. I am able to help others release those negative beliefs learned through trauma. You are then able to choose and imprint positive beliefs from a knowing of who you really are. And in that process our lives are transformed. So ask yourself what would healing look like to you?

4.What is the one life affirming action that you can take that is beautiful that will make your heart sing? Mine is to do what brings me joy. To do that I need to continue to do the work I need to do on myself to break through anything that holds me back from achieving that. What is yours?

 

Much love always,

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15 May

Matrix Reimprinting Part 2

In a previous blog I spoke about my own personal experience with Matrix Reimprinting and in this one I wanted to briefly talk some more about Matrix Reimprinting and why I believe that both EFT and now Matrix Reimprinting are changing how we are able experience life and view the world in a more positive and transformative way.

With these techniques you can release traumas that have been held in your bodies and your energy fields for years. You can create understanding, forgiveness and empowerment for the younger you within the traumatic memory which then enables you to create the life you always dreamed you would have. How many of us have hidden dreams, you know the ones I mean. Perhaps you’ve never told them to anyone or perhaps you tell them to everyone but never follow through.

Last month I wrote about the 5 Regrets of the Dying and how many people put their dreams on the back burner until they are too old. Mostly people don’t achieve their dreams because they are afraid. That fear is usually caused by childhood trauma and very often passed on through the generations. These limiting beliefs are what Gary Craig calls our “Writing on the Walls”. These are beliefs we learned from our family members, culture, religion, teachers and so on. These ‘writings’ are running in our subconscious all day long and we perceive the world through the lense of these beliefs. With Matrix Reimprinting you are able to go back into a memory and relearn and reimprint what was at one time negative and traumatic into a belief and learning that is empowering. You are able to see the event from a different perspective. Eventually after reimprinting traumatic memories, you are able to see yourself in a more positive light and be the person you knew all along you really were. Unfortunately before, because of trauma, you were unable to see it, access and actualize it. While having worked through your trauma your energetic vibration is automatically raised and utilizing the Law of Attraction you attract more positive people and experiences into your life. You can go from self conscious to self confident, from afraid to courageous. We can affect positive changes in your world by positively changing your beliefs about yourself! I want to stress that if you wish to experience the healing and transformative results from this technique I highly suggest you find an experienced and certified practitioner. Talk to them and read their testimonials to find if it is someone you can trust. We are transforming memories which gives you the opportunity of empowerment, something that was not possible at the time the trauma occurred. You will have more positive feelings and beliefs about yourself.

I believe we have these experiences for a reason. It is a privilege for me to be on this journey with you of self discovery and mastery of self and I do not take it lightly. I have enormous respect and compassion for your courage to look at what is not working in your life and changing it. The marvelous thing about Matrix Reimprinting is that we can take care of much trauma with deep love and forgiveness. I see your magnificence and am committed to you realizing your wonderful self!

With Love,

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11 Apr

Letting Go of What is not Important…

The weather here in New York City has been glorious these last few days, temperatures way into the 70s F. I am looking forward to a more relaxed Spring and Summer this year. Letting go of busyness and spending too much time on fruitless endeavors and instead focusing on what is really important. I am reminded of “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” an article written by Bronnie Ware, a palliative care nurse. I find myself reading this article periodically to remind myself what is important and to keep focused on that. Here it is: For many years I worked in palliative care.

My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them. When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again.

Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence. By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness. I am so grateful to have found the work I do not only as it has helped me in my own personal journey but to also know that I have the opportunity to help others to be free to choose not have those five regrets above. Life is too short for us not to be living every moment to the fullest.

With Love,

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03 Dec

The Gift of You 2012

As I think about the holidays approaching and what family means, I cannot help but think of all the people in the world abandoned, neglected and abused by their families and the toll it takes on their lives. If love is the answer to happiness what happens to those who never experience love, compassion and kindness from their family?

In the work I do I see the results in depression, disease, pain, self sabotage and a propensity to attract more of the same type of relationships into their lives.  A pattern that keeps repeating itself.  With EFT and Matrix Reimprinting the negative imprinting (which created the energetic blocks in the first place) can be cleared and  then one can begin the process of changing the point of attraction to positive relationships of love and appreciation.

Those who were freely given love and acceptance when they were young have a responsibility to help those less fortunate. There are so many who do and they are beautiful souls. However, I see many who take their fortunate life for granted and take advantage of those less fortunate.

We were all inspired here in  New York City by the  policeman Larry DiPrimo and the kind act he did by buying the homeless man a pair of boots and warm socks on a very cold night in Manhattan. Just moments before someone had laughed at the same homeless man, yet the officer saw his need and responded in a generous way. He is an example for us all. I am sure the man is grateful for those boots and I am wondering if he is even more grateful for the fact that someone cared enough about him to respond to his very human need. Here’s a link to a video catching this kind act.

http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/generosity-immortalized-photo-article-1.1210565.

As the holidays approach let us all remember that this season isn’t all about presents and tinsel and bows but about taking care of those less fortunate, visiting those who are alone with no one to love them, forgiving those who have offended us and providing for those who have lost everything. We don’t need more stuff, we need shelter, warmth, food and the most important things we need are love, compassion, understanding and acceptance.

Also for those of you out there who are really hard on yourselves, don’t forget to give yourself some love and compassion too! Please remember that each and everyone of you are a gift in this world and you can make a difference!

Many Blessings for a beautiful Holiday!

Love always,

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