Everything we experience in life is filtered through our beliefs about ourselves.
It seems simple to say, “if I could just change how I feel about myself then everything will fall into place and I will achieve my dreams.”
Easier said then done, right?. We know that you can say affirmations ad infinitum and yet you still may not be making the money you wanted, or have found that perfect relationship, job or career. You’re still procrastinating and still walking around in fear with stress and anxiety.
Remember that your subconscious is running 95% of your life. You can’t change those subconscious beliefs by working hard, saying affirmations or by getting success coaching. These things can definitely help but if they are not working, it is an indication that you still have negative beliefs and/or trapped trauma that stops you from moving forward out of fear. If there are parts of you that feel it is not safe to reach your goals, they are going to stop you in any way they can or if you achieve your goals somehow, they may come in and sabotage you. Don’t stop saying those affirmations but you must at the same time heal the trauma and let go of those accompanying limiting beliefs.
Where do these beliefs come from?
We create beliefs about ourselves from experiences which we have had during our lives and the untruths we believed about life and ourselves when a traumatic event occurred. In order to survive (and we are all about survival), our subconscious creates a belief to keep us safe. The belief is usually ‘not true’ but it remains in our subconscious and running the rest of our life. If we do not heal it, it will continue to run our lives, causing us all kinds of problems.
We also absorb beliefs that our parents and ancestors have unwittingly passed on. A child’s brain, between the ages of 0 to 3 years of age, functions at the Delta frequency. Between the ages of 4-7, the child’s brain functions predominantly at the Theta frequency. This means that from childbirth (or even in the womb) to the age of 7, your brain registered things at an “hypnotic” level and drove them deep into your subconscious mind. Those formative years created the foundation for how you will react to the outside world for the rest of your life, unless you learn to change the programming at the subconscious level.
As we only have Theta, Delta and Alpha brain waves up until the age of 7 years, we are in an hypnotic state. What we experience and witness from early childhood we believe to be true. After all our parents are our gods to us when we are children, our survival is completely in their hands, why wouldn’t we believe them, we don’t know anything different and we don’t have a choice.
Gary Craig calls much of the learning we received from our nuclear family and our ancestors “writings on the wall”, certain sayings and beliefs that get passed on generationally and we believe them to be true. These can affect our choices for the rest of our lives if we don’t take care of them at the subconscious and cellular level.
Our lives and our experiences and challenges have profound importance, they can form our identity and can affect who we become in this life. We all experience trauma of some kind and have obstacles to overcome and grow from. They are our own particular and unique school of life and profoundly connected to our purpose. These traumas and lessons are the basis of how we are going to ‘give back’ with the wisdom we have gained through working through our challenges.
How do we grow from these negative beliefs and traumas?
By healing the beliefs we learned. Some of the techniques I have found to be helpful and transforming are EFT and Matrix Reimprinting, Picture Tapping Technique, Internal Family Systems, the Grief Recovery Method and Transformation Prayer Ministry. If the client is open I also bring in a way they feel a loving connection to the Divine. Oftentimes trauma can cause a feeling or belief that we are alone in the world, or that we are unloved, or unlovable. Having the deep understanding that there is a kind and benevolent Higher Power who loves us deeply and will never abandon us and is within us all, can be healing in and of itself. Many people have been wounded by religion and are angry at God and so we can even address these issues or put them on the back burner and work in a very clinical way. Everyone’s needs are different and respected. I am astounded sometimes with the profound learning I have received about my life. Each memory I went back to that was traumatic, I am now able to see the value of and that if I didn’t have these experiences then I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing now. I realize the importance of these experiences in my life’s journey.
“ Don’t turn away, keep your gaze on the bandaged places. That is where the light enters you” ~ Rumi
I have walked the journey, and as I was a victim as a child, subconsciously I carried that belief throughout my life even though the abuse happened so many years ago. It ran my life behind the scenes and I sabotaged golden opportunities and friendships because I didn’t feel worthy enough. Finally I am free, thanks to God’s abundant love in guiding me to these remarkable techniques. Now I get to choose what I want to walk away from and not because of fear.
At this momentous time in the world, we are beginning to understand the power of God’s love, the power of our hearts, minds and souls to heal. We have the opportunity to break the negative belief patterns that have been passed down through our ancestors. Our parents were the wounded children of their parents and so on. This is miraculous and transforming. This is going to help change the world for the better one heart, one soul at a time.
Love and Blessings,