I notice more and more about myself as I get older and also as I am running a business, one of the things I find challenging is finding balance. When I decide to do something, it’s an all or nothing thing and I find that taking care of myself, can sometimes take second place. If you have the same problem, try this exercise:
•Take a piece of paper and fold it into four, tear or cut the fourths into separate pieces
•Write down four people you love the most in the world, one on each piece of paper
•Now tear one up and throw it away
•Then do it with the next and the next until you have one left
•Who was the last one left? Was it you? Were you even one of the four?
If not, it is interesting to see how you value yourself! Just like when you are in a plane and they tell the parents to put the oxygen masks on themselves before they put it on their kids. The airline staff know that when the parents have their oxygen they will be able to take proper care of their kids. So it is with you, when you take care of yourself first, all those around you will be taken care of better. They may even learn that they need to step up to the plate and do a better job on their end rather than have you doing all the work. The bible says: “Love your neighbor as yourself”. When you learn to love yourself unconditionally that love emanates to all those around you. The value that you have for yourself will also help you to see the value others are in your life.
- Where in your life are your boundaries lax? Not only for taking care of yourself and your career needs but also in your relationships. Our relationships can affect the success in our career.
- Is there anyone in your life who is a drain on your energy?
- Is there anyone who is not supporting you or your career in the best way possible? These could be co-workers, friends and family.
- Are the people who you are surrounding yourself with positive, hardworking, encouraging, loving and holding you accountable?
Life is short and we only have so much energy. We have to create boundaries if the important people in our lives are not being supportive. Don’t let anyone (especially yourself) doubt you or bring you down. Give to others, yes of course and at times we need to sacrifice.
I’m not advocating that it be all about you but remember balance and if you start to get exhausted, burned out, resentful or losing the joy in your work, check and see if you are taking care of yourself and getting your needs met. Love life and live it to the fullest. Be passionate about yourself and your work and your career. Shine your light and bring your joy, your essence through your work to the world by creating healthy balance and boundaries.
Love and blessings,