Everything you experience in life is filtered through your beliefs about yourself.
It seems simple to say, “if I could just change how I feel about myself then everything will fall into place and I will achieve my dreams.”
Easier said than done, right? You know that you can say affirmations and yet you still may not be making the money you wanted, or have found that perfect relationship, job or career. You’re still procrastinating and walking around in fear with the accompanying stress and anxiety.
Your subconscious is running 95% of your life. You can’t change those subconscious beliefs by working hard, saying affirmations or by getting success coaching. These things can definitely help but if they are not working, it is an indication that you still have negative beliefs and trapped trauma that stops you from moving forward out of fear. If there are buried parts of you that feel it is not safe to reach your goals, they are going to stop you in any way they can or if you achieve your goals somehow, they may sabotage your success. Don’t stop saying those affirmations but you must at the same time heal the trauma and let go of those accompanying limiting beliefs.
Where do these beliefs come from?
You create beliefs about yourself from experiences you had during your life and the lies you believed about life and yourself when a traumatic event occurred. In order to survive (and we are all about survival), your subconscious created a belief to keep you safe. The belief is usually ‘not true’ but it remains in your subconscious and runs the rest of your life, in the mistaken belief that it is keeping you safe from harm and rejection. If you do not heal the trauma and transform the limiting belief that went with it, it will continue to run your life.
You also absorb beliefs that your parents and ancestors unconsciously passed on. A child’s brain, between the ages of 0 to 3 years of age, functions at the Delta frequency. Between the ages of 4 -7, the child’s brain functions predominantly at the Theta frequency. This means that from childbirth (or even in the womb) to the age of 7, your brain registered things at an “hypnotic” level and drove them deep into your subconscious mind. Those formative years created the foundation for how you will react to the outside world for the rest of your life unless you learn to change the programming at the subconscious level.
As we only have Theta, Delta and Alpha brain waves up until the age of 7 years, we are in an hypnotic state. What we experience and witness from early childhood we believe to be true. After all our parents are our gods to us when we are children, our survival is completely in their hands, why wouldn’t you believe them, you don’t know anything different and you didn’t have a choice.
Much of the learning you received from your nuclear family and your ancestors is passed on automatically and you believe these beliefs to be true. These beliefs can affect your choices for the rest of your life if you don’t take care of them at the subconscious and cellular level.
Your life, your experiences, and challenges have profound importance, they can form your identity and can affect who you become in this life. We all experience trauma of some kind and have obstacles to overcome and grow from. They are your own particular and unique school of life and profoundly connected to your purpose. These traumas and lessons are the basis of how you are going to ‘give back’ with the wisdom you have gained through working through your challenges. if you don’t work through them and get free, how can you truly serve others to help them get free?
How do we grow from these negative beliefs and traumas?
You grow by transforming the beliefs you learned. Some of the techniques I have found to be helpful and transforming are EFT and Matrix Reimprinting, Internal Family Systems and the Grief Recovery Method. If the client is open I also bring in a way to feel a loving connection to the Divine. Trauma can cause a feeling or belief that you are alone in the world, or that you are unloved, or unlovable. Having the deep understanding that there is a kind and benevolent Higher Power who loves you deeply and will never abandon you and is within us all, can be healing in and of itself. Many people have been judged, rejected and deeply hurt by religion and are angry at God. These experiences can be traumatic as well and so when working with me we can address these issues. Everyone’s needs are different and respected.
Gratitude and forgiveness.
I am astounded sometimes with the profound learning I have received about my life. Each memory I went back to that was traumatic, I am now able to see differently with gratitude and forgiveness. I see how if I didn’t have these experiences then I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing now. I realize the value of these experiences in my life’s journey.
“ Don’t turn away, keep your gaze on the bandaged places. That is where the light enters you” ~ Rumi
Are we victims?
Even though we may be victims as children, subconsciously we can carry that belief throughout our lives even though the abuse or challenging experiences happened so long ago. It can run your life behind the scenes and sabotage golden opportunities and friendships. You have the opportunity to be free of those limiting subconscious beliefs and get to choose what you want to walk away from and not because of fear.
At this momentous time in the world, we are beginning to understand the harmful effects of trauma on the body, mind, and spirit but you can also experience the power of God’s love, the power of your heart, mind, and soul to heal. You have the opportunity to break the negative belief patterns that have been passed down through your ancestors with these new epigenetic techniques. Your parents were the wounded children of their parents and so on. This new learning is miraculous and transforming. This is going to help change the world for the better one heart, one soul at a time.
If you are interested in breaking the ancestral wounding and negative beliefs and trauma that has been passed on through to your generation and to your children and getting free, please reach out to me for more information.