John Taps Away the Blues
A story for third graders about John who gets teased at school by the other kids and how his mom helps him with EFT. It has a tutorial in the back about energy for kids and shows them how to tap. There’s another tutorial for parents with links and resources.
Click on the picture of the book and you will be directed to the book on Amazon.com
Right now it is at a special price as a promotion for a limited time so purchase one for your kids, nieces and nephews, your grandkids, your school and one for your local library. I know there would be an EFT practitioner happy to come and give a talk in your area about EFT and how valuable it is for growing up healthy in mind and spirit. How wonderful it would be that we can take care of the traumas we face in life early on instead of carrying them around with us for the rest of our lives!
As a professional EFT Practitioner, I highly recommend Gailʼs book “John Taps Away the Blues” as a tool to guide parents to get a good early start to help their kids acknowledge their voice and grow up happier.
~ Annie Siegel Alexander
Gail’s passion for helping children shines in this book. She illustrates the power and simplicity of EFT to help the reader release two destructive emotions—sadness and anger. My own children have used EFT for eight years and have grown into confident, well adjusted teens. This tool is a must for every parent and child.”
~ Susan Jeffrey Busen, Author of Tap into Joy, Tap into Success, Tap into Balance, and Good Vibes
As a EFT practitioner myself, this book is highly, highly recommended. And a little secret? It’s helpful for adults too.
~ Charan Surdhar
Imagine growing up with a wonderful tool to help you ‘melt’ away your embarrassment, stress, or trauma and free up your life energy so that you can perform at your best, sing with no shame and speak in front of hundreds of people! Emotional healing for a new generation!
~ Peggy Mangan RN ~ Joy After Cancer ~
It’s Never Too Late to Have a Happy Childhood
by Gary Craig
(This article was originally published by Gary Craig in his email newsletter and is used with permission.)
I hope that someday the public media will pick up on this article and broadcast its benefits to the world. The idea, in my opinion, deserves a prominent place on “60 Minutes”, “Oprah”, and every parent/child oriented publication on the planet.
Properly done, this idea will launch our children into an adulthood filled with high levels of inner peace and self confidence. If every child was given these benefits our eventual opportunities for world peace would far exceed those promised by our military and its bombs and other threats. Indeed, if everyone received these benefits skillfully, our military, bombs and other threats would likely become unnecessary. War is not needed for those who truly have personal peace.
The Basic Idea:
The basic idea is simple. Every night, while children are being tucked into bed, parents should ask…
“Can you tell me about your good and bad thoughts as well as the good and bad things that happened to you today?”
Then, as the events are being told (both good and bad), the parents should lightly and lovingly either tap or gently rub the EFT points.
Experienced EFT’ers can readily see the benefit for tapping on the “bad” things (we’ll talk about tapping on the “good” things later). As the child tells the story s/he is clearly “tuned into” the problem. Thus tapping on the EFT points is likely to resolve the issues or, at the very least, lighten their impacts on the child.
This is critical for children because they are constantly picking up “stuff” from parents, teachers, peers, television and so on. These inputs go on daily and accumulate over the years to fill what we adults often call our “emotional garbage bags.” If these inputs go unresolved, of course, they form unnecessary “limits” and thwart the attainment of our true potentials. These unnecessary fears, guilts, griefs and traumas often have a thunderous effect on our “adult realities” and cost us dearly in both our personal peace and our pocketbooks.
Some examples of the “bad” things children might bring up would be….
“Daddy scared me when he yelled at me.”
“I saw a monster eating people on television.”
“My teacher doesn’t think I’m very smart.”
“I can’t run as fast as Jimmy.”
“Donna is prettier than me.”
“The minister said I have to be perfect or God won’t love me.”
There are, of course, thousands of other examples that establish themselves as uninvited guests in children’s psyches. Most of them are fictions and, arguably, have a far greater impact on how a child’s life unfolds than does their education.
Alert parents have an obvious opportunity to ward off these “self confidence suckers” on a daily basis. Further, the process can be very nurturing for both parents and children because children love to be touched (tapped, rubbed) in loving ways. As you are loving your (our) children in this way, you can ask them more questions about “what happened today” and get even deeper into the issues. Further, you can offer reframes (alternative thinking) while doing EFT which are much more likely to be effective than if you were just bringing them up in normal conversation.
This whole process is also useful for pre-verbal infants. Even though infants are not able to tell you what is bothering them, the mere fact that they are crying or exhibiting other signs of distress tells parents that something (e.g. a fear, trauma or physical discomfort) needs to be resolved. During these times of distress the infant is “tuned into” the problem and thus primed for EFT. The addition of EFT tapping to the usual “there-there’s” and other soothing language is likely to pay major long term dividends.
You may have noticed that I didn’t include the EFT Setup phrasing within this process. It would be useful to fit it in, of course, although children seem to be in less need of it than adults. When adding it in you might wish to use the language below (children light up when saying it)….
“Even though I have this ___________________, I’m still an awesome kid.”
As mentioned earlier, I think it is useful to tap the EFT points even while the child is talking about their “good” thoughts and happenings for the day. Properly done, the parental EFT’ing can add a soothing element to the discussion. Further, even though the child is discussing something positive, there is often a “comparing negative” behind it. For example, if the child says…
“My teacher complimented me today in front of the whole class.”
….the comparing negative behind it might be…
“But sometimes she scolds children or ignores them and I am afraid that will happen to me.”
In this case, even though the tapping is done on the “good” statement by the teacher, it is also likely to reduce the fear involved in the comparing negative. Thus, applying EFT to both the “good” and the “bad” items is likely to provide substantial benefits across the board.
Of course, we are all children (even though some of us have developed a few wrinkles) and thus this article need not be limited to a specific age group. Wouldn’t it be nice, whatever your age, for someone to ask you about your childhood “stuff”? And wouldn’t it be even nicer to resolve those issues daily? Maybe you could trade this favor with someone or just simply go through the process solo.
It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.
To read more articles by Gary Craig visit his website at http://www.emofree.com