Stress & Trauma and how our body responds.

What happens in our body from past traumas from childhood on.

Dr. Robert Scaer, neurologist and one of the world experts in the field of trauma, defines trauma as .. “a Dr. Robert Scaer - traumalife threat in a state of helplessness.”

Our brain is strongly wired to protect us from life threats through a series of message systems in the limbic or mammalian brain that allow us to assess danger and then initiate a self-preservation response.

The brain is naturally wired to assess any danger and does so through different areas of the brain, starting in the amygdala (the fight-flight center in the mammalian brain). Once danger is assessed the brain begins a response to handle it.

The only problem we might have, is that at times one cannot escape the threat, and under these circumstances the brain is wired to initiate a freeze or immobility response.

If helplessness occurs and the normal recovery from the freeze response doesn’t occur, a discharge of autonomic and physical somatic energy, then we have a conditioned response whereby the procedural memories and sensations of that experience are stored in the survival brain.

The survival brain has to learn with each threatening experience that is dangerous and then build up a repertoire of survival based instincts and capacities.

If you freeze and don’t get rid of that stuck energy, it will be stuck in your brain as a conditioned survival response, though a false response. The storage of those false procedural memories is basically the structure of trauma.

Being able to discharge the freeze response completes the act of self preservation.

What if we don’t discharge the freeze response?

If that doesn’t happen and it can be very subtle, you can freeze because you’re shamed for instance. The blush that you have when you’re terribly shamed is part of the dorsal vagal freeze response and the discharge there may be just a subtle little shudder or completions that wouldn’t be that obvious.

So it may not be as dramatic as fearing for your safety but in either case, discharge wipes out that memory from survival because you don’t need it anymore.

Our survival bank is full of false information when the freeze response is not allowed to complete its cycle. (This is why EFT and Matrix Reimprinting are so effective as these techniques release the freeze response at the times we were not able to when we were  younger).

Multiple incidents

This is typical in cases where trauma has been multiple, especially typical of cases where it has occurred early in childhood because that sets the pattern that continues the restoring of cue-based old memories, amplifying them and growing them and keeping you more and more stuck in the past.

Many of these complex victims, who have had severe childhood and adult complex incidents including multiple chemical sensitivities, environmental allergies, sick building syndrome, sensitivity to sound etc, these are all syndromes of sensitization that you see in so many complex trauma victims.

brain, trauma These early victims will have a relative  decrease in the size of the hippocampus which is the declarative or conscious memory center of the brain. This is linked to the endocrine system and early on, cortisol, the stress hormone is increased. Prolonged exposure to cortisol also causes atrophy of the hippocampus.

If this happens late in life then cortisol tends to be lowered.

The hypothalamic-pituatary–adrenal axis (HPA axis) is very dysregulated, meaning that it tends to overreact. It ends up a syndrome of exaggerated abnormal regulation of many systems, emotional, endocrine and immune.

Chronic diseases don’t have end points.

body systems, traumaMany chronic diseases are first caused by a biological conflict shock but are re-triggered by sound, pictures, feelings, taste, smell – all of our senses.

Chronic diseases don’t have end points.

Complex trauma is more about interruptions on an emotional, spiritual, physical, sexual level, in the context of a relationship.

For example: If I am a person growing up from birth in my journey through life, I have a series of relationships where I am emotionally, spiritually, physically vulnerable because that is the nature of growing up, that is the nature of a relationship.

In the context of those relationships, if I am violated, if my spirit is endangered, my emotional stability is endangered, my physical being, through abuse or neglect, is endangered, if this is a repetition that I am repeatedly put at risk and interrupted in the context of these relationships, then these repetitions create a person who spends their life basically in fight, flight or freeze (being shut down).

And we see this as a state that is often triggered in a relationship.

But if I am being abused or traumatized in the context of a relationship, then relationships trigger my traumatized mind.

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Complex trauma is a series of painful events that happen over time where the person feels powerless, out of control and devalued.

Meanwhile the perpetrator of violence, of any form of violence – physical or sexual abuse and abusive behaviors are their attempts at retaining power, control and value.

Dr Scaer defines dissociation as what we perceive when we are in the freeze. When a person is dissociated they’re out of body, confused numb, they are in the freeze.

And since the dorsal vagal nucleus is the engine for all of the visceral function, when you’re chronically dissociated, you tend to have these syndromes of visceral (gut, heart, and lung) problems that we see with folks with trauma.

Procedural memories that accompanied a traumatic event, especially an overwhelming one, or one that was repeated constantly.

In war for instance, where combat is repeated over and over again. All the memories, sights, images, tastes, and smells of those traumatic events are stored in unconscious memory in a very precise and accurate fashion. It includes the physical sensations, the autonomic state, and the emotional state (rage, terror, fear) – all of these are stored in a common state.

So when you are dissociated, you’re not conscious. You’re living in a state in the past with all of the features of that state being replicated and typical of prior trauma.

We’re beginning to see that early childhood abnormal attachment is correlated with many of the physical and mental illnesses that we see now.

When Dr Scaer came across this concept, most of the people he was seeing had PTSD  (post traumatic stress disorder) as well. He started to do family histories and childhood histories on all the people in his chronic pain program and in whiplash victims. He found that the common denominator was child abuse in all of these people, and it was absolutely predictable.

Avoidant Attachment

What about people who have experienced avoidant attachment?  It is not that they experienced abuse, but they experienced an apathetic or avoidant parent.

That still produces trauma and vulnerability. The absence of attunement, even within the first days or weeks of the infancy has a deleterious effect on developing resiliency to these events.

Dr. Scaer on our current Hospital System

In our system of medical care, we have created a system of medicine that creates helplessness in the patient and that, in itself, makes it a traumatizing environment.

I think almost all surgical procedures are traumatizing, and I found that diagnoses, especially when diagnosing breast cancer in female patients, is overwhelmingly traumatizing. It has many implications – obviously death is one, but disfigurement is another.

I think most of any diagnoses will be traumatizing and much of it can be mitigated by the presence of caregivers at the time by providing information and control.

It is of utmost importance that the medical system be enlightened as to the fact that any illness will contain elements of trauma and how that is handled throughout the course of treatment will determine how that patient heals.

“Frankly, I think our current system of medicine is the gorilla in the living room of our cultural trauma”

“It is true with adults, but especially with children. If they have to undergo an invasive procedure or put under anesthesia while they are frightened or terrified, it can leave a lasting imprint of fear, anxiety, and depression that may not show up for months or even years later.”

Dr. Alan Shore

Dr. Allan Schore is on the clinical faculty of the Department of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences and UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine.

Dr. Shore discusses the growth of the right or orbital frontal Dr. Alan Shore, traumacortex during the early months of life.  He explains that it grows proportionate to the degree of contact with the mother in a bonding fashion in infancy. In those infants who have been nurtured effectively by their mothers, that frontal cortex becomes, as it should, the master regulator of the emotional brain and the autonomic brain.

There’s direct objective evidence for the fact that this early period of time is absolutely critical for the development of the regulated brain.

Emotional communication between the mother and infant , the development or not of the right hemisphere of the brain. (The right develops before the left.)

This is the most plastic period of brain development, this means that not only is the baby more sensitive to negative influences, but also more sensitive to positive influences. When you make changes in the first year of life, those changes will have profound effects down the line, much more than psychotherapy way down the line.

The first 2 years are the most important

The hippocampus reaches it’s full development in the first 2 years and that is responsible for how well we integrate in society. The brain growth spurt occurs from the last trimester of pregnancy to the 2nd year.

Facial gestures, auditory tone of voice, tactile expressions all contribute to making a baby feel safe which is a main priority for the human body.

Attachment is also about intimacy so there will be a capacity for intimacy and also a resilient capacity to deal with stress.

We have this inborn genetically determined motivational system that we are driven by and have a biological instinctual social need to attach to whoever our primary caregivers are.

When that doesn’t go well children go into avoidant attachment. Children tend to disengage and be more withdrawn and be more self-orientated.

The big point to understand is that it’s not a choice, it’s an adaption.

So they tend to feel isolated from their parents and then later from their partners and don’t really have a template for asking for help that works.

There are other circumstances where parents might appear or behave in an ambivalent or preoccupied manner and children grow up not knowing when the rug is going to get pulled out from under their feet, and they can’t relax.

Very common also in children whose parents are alcoholic or depressed, the child has to walk on eggshells all the time as they do with an unpredictable and angry father parent. Children shut down and back off.

Looking at the bigger picture, emotions are our energetic guidance system.

The right and the left brain are separate processors, and have unique biochemistries and neurophysiologies and functions.

Emotion based psychotherapy changes the biological aspects of the human being, and can also change the emotional functions of the individual and evidence shows that it can change brain development.

The good news is that we can heal the pain from the past with the techniques I use, even though I had an avoidant mother and abusive father.

Thank you to Bill Tucker for much of the above article. Bill can be found at:


Dr Robert Scaer, Peter Levine Phd, Stephen Porges Phd, Dr Mathew Friedman, Pat Ogden Phd, Allan Schore Phd, Dr Diane Poole Heller

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